Adoption vs. Abortion – Which is Right for You?
When facing an unplanned pregnancy, you have three main options: parenting, abortion or adoption. But when you know parenting isn’t an option for you, how do you choose between adoption and abortion?
The truth of the matter is that no one can tell you which option to choose in this situation. It isn’t the birth father’s decision, or your parents, or an adoption agency’s, or a website’s decision. It is YOUR decision. You need to do what you feel is best for you, no matter what anyone else tells you.
Though Adoption Answers is an adoption proponent, we can help guide you through this tough decision by providing you with as much information as we can about both adoption and abortion.
- Most abortions are completed during the first trimester (the first 12 weeks of pregnancy)
- The majority of women who choose abortion are in their late teens to early twenties and unmarried
- Abortion generally costs anywhere from $400 – $2000
- About half of all unintended pregnancies are ended via abortion
How It Works
It is common for women to be nervous about an abortion procedure, but learning how it works may help with the nerves.
After choosing a medical provider or clinic to perform your abortion you will go in for your appointment. Your provider will talk to you about the procedure, ask you to fill out and sign forms, and perform a physical exam before beginning the procedure.
Your provider’s next concern will be pain control. He or she will give you a medicine for pain as well as inject a numbing medicine into your cervix. You will also be given antibiotics to prevent infection.
The majority of all abortions, which are performed prior to 16 weeks, are done via an aspiration procedure. This means that a practitioner will dilate your cervix and evacuate your uterus using a small suctioning device. The procedure generally takes 5 to 10 minutes followed by a recovery period of about an hour.
If you have any questions or concerns about the procedure, please do not hesitate to talk to your provider. He or she will be more than happy to address your concerns and ensure that you are comfortable with the procedure.
Things to Consider
Some people consider abortion a “get-out-of-jail-free card” that has no lasting effects on the woman. The truth is that abortion is often a very emotional procedure. Following an abortion procedure, many women experience feelings of grief, loss, or guilt that take time to heal. In fact, it is often more difficult for a woman who chose abortion to move past these feelings and find closure. Conversely, a woman who chose adoption is able to see how happy her child is and the wonderful life she gave them.
Facts About Adoption
- Approximately 18,000 infant adoptions occur each year in the U.S.
- Many women who choose adoption are in their 20s and/or have older children whom they are parenting
- Today, most women who choose adoption maintain some form of contact with their child and his or her adoptive parents after placement
- Adoption is free for expectant mothers, and in some cases you may be able to receive compensation for pregnancy-related expenses
How It Works
If you are considering adoption for your child, it is easy to feel overwhelmed with where to begin. Fortunately, Adoption Answers can help you by putting you in contact with one of the many adoption professionals and agencies with whom we partner. From there, your adoption professional will be able to help you through every step of the adoption process.
First, he or she will help you determine the type of family you want your child to grow up with. From there you will be presented with the profiles of several different waiting families who may be the right fit for your child.
Once you have chosen the perfect family for your child, your adoption professional will contact them to inform them of your decision and set up an opportunity for you to talk to the family or possibly meet them. Many women find that meeting the adoptive family gives them more comfort in their decision.
At the hospital you will determine how things work. You will decide who you want present in the delivery room, how much time you want to spend with the baby, and when you want the adoptive family to meet the baby.
After waiting the mandatory 48 hours, you will sign your consents for the adoption and the baby will be transferred to the custody of the adoptive parents. It is important to keep in mind that this transfer of custody does not signify the end of motherhood, but the beginning of what will be a beautiful journey with the adoptive family and your child.
Things to Consider
Much like abortion, adoption is a very emotional decision to make. It is important that you have a strong support system that can help you cope with feelings of grief, loss and guilt. Coping with these feelings in a healthy way is the key to a successful adoption.
Remember that adoption is a beautiful act of love. It is the ultimate sacrifice that a woman can make for her child. You are not giving up by choosing adoption, you are giving life.